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Jun 21, 2022Liked by Molly Knox Ostertag

I'm trans. Bigender, tbh. I just wanted to tell you that you don't know how much your support means. My girlfriend is supporting me as well and everything is easier thanks to her. She makes me feel loved, unique and that I matter, just the way I am. It's really beautiful to see how you are doing the same with ND. 🏳️‍⚧️💙

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Jun 21, 2022Liked by Molly Knox Ostertag

As a partner of a non-binary goblin I love to read about your and ND's perspectives and experiences. Often I feel like I lack the right words because I just don't want to make my partner's story in any way about me. But whenever their transition adventure needs a trusty supporting character I am glad to be a part of it.

Sometimes in a 'I can’t carry it for you, but I can carry you and it as well' way.

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The comics you two make about your identities & love for each other mean so much to me, as a genderqueer person who is quietly wading into transition all by myself. These mirrors & the affirmation that transness is loveable are so important, thank you. <3 Sincerely, thank you.

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This is a bit of a dumb bonus comment, but my gf just sent me this post again, so I was moved all over again by all this, and I saw that I had read and commented already... and then I realized that I had been answering you, Maia, who coincidentally, just *one week* after me answering that, would become possibly the biggest tumblr reference of a nonbinary companion of mine in regard to understanding-expressing their gender feels. And so I'm back here three months later and it just rings different, seeing your name here, and, and... that's it, I wanted to acknowledge that * - * Thank you for what you do, too!

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Oh my gosh I just saw this bonus comment, thank you so much ❤️

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Thank you too! 💙

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Yes, yes, yes, yes. Thank you so, so much for helping us feeling this seen <3

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Jun 21, 2022Liked by Molly Knox Ostertag

This is lovely. Transition is such a journey for those chasing their true self and the loved ones who stand alongside them. People can often say that 'mourning' someone when they transition is a selfish thing to do, but I've always seen it as rather beautiful. You're learning to love someone all over again as they embrace the person whose been hiding inside them all along. Those changes can be hard, but accepting them and going along for the ride seems so worth it.

I should be working but this comic made me emotional 😭

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I'm trans and my fiance is afraid of change too. But she has followed me forward into the change and her support has meant everything to me. It scared me that she might not like seeing who I really am but it turns out, she's known all along. Your support to ND Stevenson is amazing and so evident in his comics. The both of you are incredible inspirations!

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Jun 22, 2022Liked by Molly Knox Ostertag

As someone who is married to one trans masculine person and dating another, I feel this comic in my heart and I'm the pit of my stomach. The uncertainty and fear and joy is just something that I feel so intensely on my own relationships. Change is scary and also of living someone and committing to them means anything it means being open to growing and changing together.

And really I feel like being there through this (and it was rough going at times for all concerned, life is hard, yada yada yada) has been a gift. I figured out that I am bi because of this - being there for the people I love is what helped me come out to myself. I wouldn't trade this for the world.

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Reading your's and ND's substacks back to back has me weeping into my office lunch. Your love is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing that with all of us. <3

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Almost did a little at-the-office weeping this morning and it had (almost) nothing to do with my current projects. This piece reminds me of just how grateful I am for my partner, who has steadfastly stood beside me through my own transition into the weird little gender gremlin I'm meant to be. She has not only listened without judgement, but also gone out of her way to be my advocate, my biggest fan, and a voice of support for our community among her friends and family. I wouldn't be where I am or who I am now without her, and I can't even pretend to know what it's like for her on the other side, watching the old me slip away.

Your perspective shines more light on that, though, so I am grateful to you for sharing it ☀️🏳️‍⚧️

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I am so glad to follow you both ❤️

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big weeping this morning reading this.

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this is beautiful 😭 i hope this doesn't come across creepy, but yours and NDs relationship is just beautiful and I love these lil glimpses into how much u guys support each other!

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not feeling very verbal today, but <33333

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😭😭😭

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This is so beautiful.

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💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🏳️‍⚧️

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Have and will continue following you both wherever you invite us! 😊

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